Guest post by Jeanette Andrade
March 29 Scripture Selection: I Samuel 25-27
Food for Thought: I Sam. 25:2-39
What is a faithful wife to do when her husband is an evil scoundrel and makes harmful decisions? A good wife desires to be submissive to her husband, but some men make that extremely difficult. However, Abigail showed that, as the helper that God designed her to be for her husband (Gen. 2:18), at times it is necessary for the wife to matters into her own hands, and act quickly. Though she had to go behind his back to act and do something against his will, her intentions were not do dishonor him; rather, they were to preserve his life and the lives of all the others males on his property. Still showing him honor, she made sure to tell him about what she’d done later when he was sober. Abigail did her part in the marriage, even though Nabal did not. And for her integrity, Abigail is the heroine in this story.
It sure is better—and easier!—when both parties are fulfilling their calling in the marriage as God designed it. A godly man who loves the Lord and puts Him first will also love his wife. He will do as Ephesians 5:25 directs: “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her.” Further, Colossians 3:19 says, “Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them.” And in I Peter 3:7, husbands are instructed, “Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel (delicate and of great value, like a crystal vase (my words)), and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.”
When the husband is not self-absorbed and has his priorities in order, and the wife does too, then she can easily fulfill her calling and purpose as laid out in Genesis 2:18 (Amp. version): “Now the Lord God said, ‘It is not good (sufficient, satisfactory) that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him.’” As his “helper,” and able to trust him as a godly man, she readily submits and respects him as the Word instructs in Ephesians 5:22, 33; Colossians 3:18; and I Peter 3:1. That is when things really flow well together.
Abigail could have told the servant who had brought up the issue to her, “Oh well, that’s just how my husband is, and whatever happens is all his fault. Besides, I’m just a woman. What can I do? He’s already spoken.” But she chose to do the right thing for the benefit of her husband and, of course, of all who were living there. As she demonstrated, even when the spouse is not honoring his position as he should (or, even if the husband does and the wife does not), the other could still do the right thing, regardless of the condition or behavior of the other. That is what love does. It is unconditional.
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